Designed for Happiness

Designed for happiness and the story of the New Year, 

In that evening John looked at them and said, while taking another deep breath: “Don’t make stuff because you want to make money – it will never make you enough money. And don’t make stuff because you want to get famous – because you never feel famous enough”.  With a deep wise look in his eyes, with his large black hat that looked like a raven with widespread wings and his velvet vest across which the patina of the centuries had skated, took another sip of water and remained in silence for a few moments. His followers looked at him as if they were holding their breaths, waiting to absorb, his next wise teachings, just like the soil greedily absorbs the new water trying to calm its thirst. 
“If you worship money and things….then you will never have enough. never feel you have enough” he added.When I saw this person speaking, a couple of years ago, I felt that impressed, that I felt the Earth moving underneath my feet.

“I have a new focus now, TO BE HAPPY!!!”, I said to myself.

“Simple enough, you’d think….” – I continued in my mind, thinking about all the doubts that will get myself trapped in along the journey.
When I think about happiness, I do, like everybody else, I think about adding more, assuming that I don’t have enough, that I am not enough. Is it true?

What does it really mean to HAVE ENOUGH?

I started this year with these type of thoughts:
“What does it mean to have enough?”,
“How can I emphasize the positive feelings about my current happiness without any projections or future expectations?”
“How can I befriend with my inner life”?

At the beginning of the year, most of us, dress up with the layers of the New Year’s expectations, New ambitions (New Year’s Resolutions if you’d like to call them like that) and easily, very rapidly, put those on our shoulders, add up a big cheeky smile on our faces and drink quickly the potion of the big lie “This Year I’ll be MORE, Have MORE”.

This year, it was different for me, I wasn’t feeling cold, I didn’t need to warm myself up with the excitement of the new achievements. I felt somehow, just like a child who discovered old shoes in the cupboard, I felt like dancing again.

“This Year, I will simply dance, I’ll allow the music to feed me” – I promised to myself.
This time, I will discover the inner music and befriend with it.

My dear reader, I wanted to share with you my thoughts about the new course of my life, because I know that you appreciate having a good life for yourself too.
As a person interested in achievements, is very easy to let yourself drowned by the thought of the future success. It’s easy to postpone happiness.

*Happiness as a bank account without savings or loans*

I never thought about happiness as a bank account before. I recently realised that happiness is just like that.

We put time there, in the account, exactly 1440 minutes a day. Without any exception, we use this time every single day. If it is not used in our favour, then, is lost, LOST forever. There is no way back! There is nobody there to borrow us time, to help us to retrieve those great moments that make our hearts beat and our faces smile like demanded poker players that just won their last game.

But how Do I make these 1440 minutes to REALLY matter?
How do I let go the thoughts of “should” (I should improve myself to be better, I should try to let go the pain, I should let painful things to go away, maybe that way I’ll learn to live in the moment, maybe then, only then I’ll be happy”)?

To answer to the question above, I came up with some solutions for myself:

1 – I accept the life as it is right now and be grateful
Is very easy to project ourselves in the future or to live in the pain, thinking about the past, thinking about what other people think about us, or how others or different events will hurt us. But the truth is that, with these projections, the only thing that we do right, is to use inefficiently our time, which, never comes back. Life is not about deadlines, achievements, results, life is more about music, about enjoying the dance, the fly.
When we dance, we don’t plan the next steps, we feel like a leaf in the wind wore by the hands of the wind in the rhythm of the new song. We don’t plan or guess the notes, we don’t allow the knowledge to burden our fly. Don’t get me wrong, I love knowledge, but to be really fulfilled it means to live the music, not to KNOW the music. Music is what makes us feel fulfilled. achievements, deadlines make us feel filled with punctual pleasure. The pleasure, unfortunately doesn’t last.

2 – Rediscover myself
The art of letting go, the art of unlearning old things and discovering, learning new ones, is within myself not somewhere in the wind. I love the journey to myself, so I will use daily few minutes of those 1440 to cultivate self connection and self-attention.

3 – Being present – a life style
Being present is not something that happens once and then you have achieved it. Being alive to the process of life itself, makes us feel fulfilled and happy.

4 – Life as an equation: HAPPINESS = pleasure + purpose
When we wear the clothes of deadlines, achievements, we feel very cosy with our expectations of the new pleasures. And maybe we have purpose too but the question is: It is really worth it? Every time when we have new goals, we should ask ourselves “What is the price of this goal”? 
A long boring job, or a time spent in misery at work, a dreadful relationship, unsuitable friends, don’t really matter when we count happiness. Remember, that time is lost forever.

Advice
Check within yourself which ingredients you should add in YOUR life, to make this balance work. Is it about pleasure or about purpose that will make your life worthwhile? You are the only person who knows the answer

5 – Worry less and be self-centered than constantly compared with others
For me there are plenty of triggers of worryability. I noticed them and also tried to understand what makes me anxious. In the last studies, the highest rate of anxiety is for people around 40 years old and comes back later on in our 70’s. Also, in the 40’s we all experience the lowest level of life satisfaction. Of course, these numbers are only general, they don’t necessarily apply to everyone of us.

Advice

Meditation, dance and any form of art have the purpose of reducing any sort of anxiety you might feel. I would highly recommend exploring these options.

We are all designed for happiness, is good sometimes to remind ourselves that we ARE ENOUGH.

I hope that you enjoyed reading my thoughts and if you would like to meet, we have a great first meeting next Wednesday, in the Apartment, Belfast, City Centre.
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Thank you for reading and remember, design your life, don’t let other people to set up your direction!

Laura

Development Coach
Elite Vision Coaching

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Life as a circle from childhood to childhood and Merry Christmas

 Seven Wishes for Christmas and Super Powers

 “I am in a rush to get things done.

 All I do is rush and run. 

I run and rush till life’s no fun.

                                And oh, all I do is rush and run.” —- 

 Does it look familiar to you? How many of us are looking for gifts this week for the dear ones, getting annoyed about the crowd from the shops, getting angry because of the lack of manners of some people trying to just get things done….trying to tick the boxes of a list, to do the “right thing”…Right now, the time seems to rush in, to go faster and faster, it seems to lose track of the pleasant moments and to make count only those moments when we are in the queue, waiting to cross another thing from our amazing list for Christmas.
And yet, this is what Christmas is about? Is about a list of what we ‘should’ do or about ‘what is right’ to be doing?
Getting older, or let’s say, more mature (I hope is wiser too:) I realized that I lost a bit the Spirit of Christmas. I kept asking myself lately, what made me lose the joy of Christmas. To be honest, in looking for an answer for this question, I realized that I keep on blaming other factors for my own lose of Joy for Christmas: exams over exams, changing the job, getting new projects, deadlines and deadlines, illness of relatives, worries about jobs and the economic status, moving house, moving country, etc.
I realized that there is always a blame to put on somebody else’s shoulders when the only one responsible to bring back the Joy for Christmas, my Joy for Christmas is only ME.
So here am I now, asking myself a totally different question: ‘How can I bring back to myself the Spirit for Christmas”?
To be honest, I didn’t find the total truth yet, but I like exploring this new World of Finding Christmas and this Journey brought to me great memories, special moments of pure happiness and great Joy.
So far, I realized that I love very much sharing, therefore I love telling you what secrets I revealed to myself so far and how do I plan make the new Spirit of Christmas last over the years.
The very first thing that I gave up doing it the last years, was to send wishes in the sky. I love making new wishes, it makes me dream and more important, brings back hope and positive outlooks about the future.
This Christmas I’d like to celebrate with you the joy of wishes, the joy of making new wishes for the future.
I have so far, seven big wishes that I’d like to share with you.
Wish one
LET GO OF TIME – Are you directing your time or your life is directed by time? How much do you need to do today? This question is just a proof of the time slavery. Is not about the things we done everyday, at the end of the day is only about what fills every moment we spend from our lives. What we do makes us feel alive? My new aim is to live my life alive, enjoying every moment, less concerned about results and more focused on the space between moments, on the silence between thoughts, when actually life happens. This Christmas, I’d like to be light, to let go time and to enjoy moments instead of seconds.
Wish two
WANDER where there is no path - There is no time like the present to “get lost”. This attitude is one of the best to bring back the Spirit of Christmas. It involves a lot of expressions: creativity, indulging intuition, pursuing a great relationships with yourself. I’d like to take this path, is now sure that will get me closer to the Real Christmas.
In a place of wander, is no blame, is now concern, is just curiosity, just joy in the process of discovery.
Wish three
Ask yourself what THIS MOMENT MEANSEven though we are creatures of reason and is a great idea to ask ourselves which are the secrets of the universe, this concern can become a burden and can stay in our way in finding meaning in the very present moment. To find the secrets of the universe, is an endless speculation, so my new wish is to find new ways to recognize what am I meant to learn in every second.
Wish four
Friendliness, compassion and delight to cultivate a calm mind -this new wish will help me to cultivate a more open heart, without judgement, to radiate the message of delight of having them in my life.
Wish five
Breath in the NOW
- this new wish is about spending more time in joy, in admiration and meditation. This wish is about letting go the concerns about things, about past or about future.
Wish six
May YOUR HEART SING
– this is a very special wish for me. Is about the wander of life, is about music and joy for being alive. This wish is about celebration of all that is good about my life, is about appreciating my blessings.
Wish seven
 
Perform every act as if it were your lastThis wish is about giving my BEST in everything I do. Is about about taking responsibility about every action we make, to perform it as if the whole life would be changed because of it. Be mindful of who you are in every action you take.

I know that you will have a different journey than me, in finding or maybe, who knows, you already have the Spirit of Christmas within yourself, but i just wanted to share with you my Christmas wishes, that will become my new inner mentors for the future.
I have to make another confession to you: I still look for the Christmas and I know is somewhere out there.
This journey of looking up for the Spirit of Christmas, reminded me a lot of my childhood and somehow, transported me again in my grandmother’s house, with a lot of lights, with a Giant Christmas Tree, with many gifts, with a smell of Cinnamon, oranges, fresh Christmas cakes ( “cozonac” called – with roasted walnuts, cocoa, oranges, he he the recipe some other time)
Merry Christmas 
Christmas has now a new meaning for me: is a spiral of new beginnings, is a circle from childhood to childhood, is a new realm of possibilities, of dreams that can come true.
If you’d like too, to enjoy with me the Spirit of Christmas, I’d like to invite you to step into this new circle of childhood and allow yourself to breath in the new moments of happiness and joy. Is just a matter of wander and curiosity:)

I wish you a GREAT CHRISTMAS, spent with an open heart, joy, wander and amazing tasty cakes and gifts:)
With love,
Laura

Warm stories about friendships and kindness

Warm stories about friendships and kindness

“The farmer and the clown” – is a new story that I’ve read recently, which I found very interesting.
Why is this story inspiring?

Simply because is a sweet celebration of the mutual elevation made possible by dropping our assumptions about ourselves, others, and who is welcome in our world.
It is about wearing a “child-like mask” of non-judgmental attitude towards people, of a curiosity approach of the events and experiences we encounter in life.

This year’s best children’s books: The Farmer and the Clown —is a sweet, immeasurably warm wordless story by author and illustrator Marla Frazee.
” A swiftly moving circus train on the horizon introduces color and an unexpected visitor, when a bump on the tracks ejects a young clown. Exuberance meets quiet responsibility as the whirlwind in a red one-piece, the small clown, embraces the legs of the old man. . . . This is a tender look at light and shadow, the joy and comfort in companionship, the lift that laughter provides, and the friendship possible among generations”..

Reminiscent of The Lion and the Bird —  the tale follows the accidental, unlikely friendship that develops between a kindly old farmer and a child-clown after the little boy falls out of the circus train amid the farmer’s patch of the prairie.

A short description of the tale

A solitary farmer on an empty plain receives the most unlikely visitor. A tall, scowling farmer labors with a pitchfork on an endless brown field. In the distance, surprisingly, a steam train crosses the horizon. As the train chugs off the edge of the spread, a jolt propels something off the caboose. The startled farmer sets out in that direction. He finds a small clown, wearing white makeup, a red-and-yellow costume and a broad smile. The clown deftly pantomimes having fallen off the train—action and emotion shine wordlessly—and the farmer takes him home. Silently they stare at each other, eat and wash their faces. Without makeup, the child-clown’s smile disappears; is he sad to lose that connection to his home-train, or had the smile been made of makeup all along? With growing tenderness, the farmer watches over his sleeping guest and, come morning, hops and dances to cheer him up. They juggle eggs and share real farmwork until the circus train returns along the distant tracks. Its shape and primary colors make it look like a toy, especially against the soft, textured grays and browns of the farm, skies and earth.

The farmer makes an endearing effort to include this wholly alien new friend into daily life, while trying to address the little boy’s wholly alien needs as best as he can imagine them. From the generosity of his intention springs a celebration of the mutual inspiration and elevation made possible by leaving our assumptions about ourselves, others and life in general. This is a story about an opened mind and about curiosity and love for life and making new connections.

By choosing such a gentle and innocent embodiment of the clown character — the frightening clown is, after all, a common trope in horror that feeds on a common fear many people share — Frazee also reminds us, just as gently, that the strangenesses we fear can become our most deeply rewarding experiences, if we bring to them a warm curiosity and a generous quality of presence.

The story’s ending emanates an assuring reminder that even though life is ever-flowing and we live in a universe of constant change — that, as Henry Miller observed, “all is change, all is flux, all is metamorphosis” — even brief encounters can imprint us with their affectionate grace, the warmth of which burns in the hearth of the soul forever.


“The Farmer and the Clown” is absolutely luminous in its entirety —the kind of deeply, universally human story Tolkien must have had in mind when he insisted that there is no such thing as writing for children.

My invitation for you, for this month, is to open your heart and fill it with curiosity, maybe who knows? we can make new friends that can inspire our growth and can support our fulfillment.
If you have any suggestions of topics or future events or you’d like to book a coaching consultation, drop me an email: info@evisioncoaching.co.uk

I wish you a warm week filled with joy and open heart!

OPTIMISM -the magic asset

Optimism – the magic asset

Did you watch the movie “Pay it Forward”? I always found that movie inspiring. It shows that hope can change the world we live in, it shows that friendships, love and other good values, really count in this life and that we are all equipped with all we need to survive and make a difference. I loved something else at this movie: the learning topics. I don’t remember to have learned in my early school years about self-confidence, optimism or health. I think is a very important aspect in our education that needs a lot of attention.

Among the topics that young people study before they enter the workforce is calculus, the mathematics of change and motion. While training in calculus is undoubtedly valuable, I believe that training in optimism is also important.

Just as it is good discipline to solve problems like the velocity of a car at a certain moment in time, it is also crucial to figure out what drives people to give us the very best that they have to offer. Ironically, Leibniz, one of the inventors of calculus, is also known for his philosophy of optimism. He was considered to be an inveterate optimist, asserting that we live “in the best of all possible worlds”. Optimism is an emotional competence that can help boost productivity, enhance employee morale, overcome conflict and have a positive impact on the bottom line.

In writing about optimism, you face the danger of being seen as advocating a “Pollyanna” or “American” approach. The truth is, however, optimism has been proven to be a powerful tool that will pay dividends for your personal life and give you a competitive advantage professionally in your career. There is a lot to be gained, indeed, in cultivating an optimistic outlook.

Consider, as well, in a corporate environment, the reverse: the effect that pessimistic individuals can have on an organization’s creativity and innovation. To be innovative, you need to be open to new ideas, wide open to seeing possibilities, willing to take risks and encourage others to take risks – willing to challenge the process in order to create new solutions or products or improve processes. In short, you need to have a sense of adventure and an expectation of success. Those who have a pessimistic outlook typically approach changes to the status quo with the familiar: “We tried this before”, “It won’t work”, or “It will never fly”. Such individuals often label themselves as “devil’s advocate”. How can someone who has a pessimistic outlook embrace change over the safety of the known?

There are other areas which are impacted positively by optimism. Take sales, for example: A study shows that new sales personnel at Metropolitan Life who scored high on a test on optimism sold 37 percent more life insurance in their first two years than pessimists (Seligman, 1990). In another study involving debt collectors in a large collection agency, the most successful collectors had significantly higher scores in the area of self-actualization, independence and optimism. (Bachman et al, 2000, cited by Cary Cherniss.)

Perhaps more significant are the countless studies that have shown that people with an optimistic outlook have healthier relationships, enjoy better mental and physical health and live longer. In The Wisdom of the Ego, Dr George E Vaillant, Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, writes about individuals who have “both the capacity to be bent without breaking and the capacity, once bent, to spring back”. Vaillant mentions that, in addition to external sources of resilience (such as good health or social supports), these individuals have important internal sources which include a healthy self-esteem and optimism.

So how do you recognize an optimist? Alan Loy McGinnis, author of The Power of Optimism, studied the biographies of over 1000 famous people, and isolated 12 characteristics of the optimistic personality. Among these is: “Optimists look for partial solutions”, that is, freed from the tyranny of perfectionism and from paralysis by analysis, they are open to taking small steps towards achieving success.

Another characteristic of those who have an optimistic nature is: “Optimists use their imagination to rehearse success”, in other words, they play positive mental videos of preferred outcomes, much like sports figures do. Michael Jordan, for example, once stated that he never plays a game that he hasn’t first visualized. Another trait is that “Optimists think that they have great capacity for stretching” – they believe that their personal best is yet to come.

Dr Martin E Seligman, the modern scholar most often associated with studying the traits of optimists, and former president of the American Psychological Association and Professor of Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, has devoted decades to studying optimistic people and reports three traits that they have in common: They view adversity in their lives as temporary, specific and external, that is, not entirely their fault, as opposed to pessimists who view adversity as unchangeable, pervasive, and more personal. In the face of setbacks, challenges or difficult jobs, pessimist are more likely to do worse than predicted and even give up, while optimists will persevere.

Optimism, therefore, is also an important component of achievement, and is especially important in times of chaos, change and turbulence. Those who have an optimistic outlook will roll with the punches, will be more proactive and persistent and will not abandon hope.

So, where does optimism come from? Is it something we are born with or is it learned? For some lucky individuals, being optimistic comes naturally. The good news is that, for those who don’t have it naturally, optimism is an attitude that can be learned and practiced.

Here are some strategies you can consider in your journey to becoming more optimistic or in helping someone else who suffers from pessimism:

Avoid negative environments. If this is not realistic, make every effort to seek the company of positive individuals around you.Stay away from the professional complainer.
Celebrate your strengths. The key to high achievement and happiness is to play out your strengths, not correct your weaknesses. Focus on what you do well.

Take care of your spiritual and emotional well being by reading inspirational material on a daily basis. This may be different for each person. Some may be inspired by daily quotations, others by reading biographies of successful people in their field and yet others may derive inspiration from reading about all the innovations that we are graced with.

Manage or ignore what you cannot change.
When faced with setbacks, identify what you can change and proactively try to find ways to do something about it. We have often heard this advice – it bears repeating. Be inspired by Benjamin Franklin’s words: “While we may not be able to control all that happens to us, we can control what happens inside us.”

Learn to reframe.
This involved deliberately shifting perspective and looking for the hidden positive in a negative situation: the proverbial silver lining. Look for the gift in the adversity.

Adapt your language and outlook. Consider how a simple shift in the language you use can make a difference in your outlook: Do you frequently say: “yes, but….” in response to your constituents’ suggestions? The “but” automatically negates anything you have said in the beginning part of the sentence. A simple shift to “yes, and…” might make a positive difference. Check the emails you have sent recently. Count the proportion of negative to positive words. It could be enlightening.

Focus outside yourself, on important people in your life, on pursuits and projects that fire you up. Bertrand Russell once said that the quickest way to make ourselves miserable is to continually focus on ourselves. It was his love of mathematics that kept him going.

Nurture a culture of optimism when you are in charge of other people at work. Expect people to succeed. Even when they occasionally fail to achieve what they set out to do, encourage them so that they can tackle the next challenge. A simple: “I know you’ll do better the next time” can have very positive effects.

Cultivate spontaneity. Consider putting aside all your plans once in a while to take a walk with your kids, play a game or catch a show. Getting out of your comfort zone by being spontaneous helps to develop your optimistic muscle, as spontaneity essentially involves an expectation of having a pleasurable experience.

Consider the health benefits. If you need an extra motivation for practicing optimism, consider the statistics linking optimism to greater health. As Dr Seligman explains, there is evidence to believe that immune systems among optimistic people are stronger than among pessimists.

Next week, we will celebrate Optimism, Joy, Happiness and friendships. If you would like to join us, know someone else that might want to cultivate these positive feelings, feel free to access the link below:

“The Christmas Show” ticket

 

If you have any suggestions of topics or future events or you’d like to book a coaching consultation, drop me an email: info@evisioncoaching.co.uk

Have an amazing week!

Laura

Development Coach
Elite Vision Coaching

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Building GOOD WORK relationships

Building GOOD WORK relationships

How good are the relationships that you have with your colleagues?

001loveface_artAccording to the Gallup Organization, people who have a best friend at work are seven times more likely to be engaged in their jobs. And it doesn’t have to be a best friend: Gallup found that people who simply had a good friend in the workplace are more likely to be satisfied.

In this article, we’re looking at how you can build strong, positive relationships at work. We’ll see why it’s important to have good working relationships, and we’ll look at how to strengthen your relationships with people that you don’t naturally get on with.

Why Have Good Relationships?

Human beings are naturally social creatures – we crave friendship and positive interactions, just as we do food and water. So it makes sense that the better our relationships are at work, the happier and more productive we’re going to be.

Good working relationships give us several other benefits: our work is more enjoyable when we have good relationships with those around us. Also, people are more likely to go along with changes that we want to implement, and we’re more innovative and creative.

What’s more, good relationships give us freedom: instead of spending time and energy overcoming the problems associated with negative relationships, we can, instead, focus on opportunities.

Good relationships are also often necessary if we hope to develop our careers. After all, if your boss doesn’t trust you, it’s unlikely that he or she will consider you when a new position opens up. Overall, we all want to work with people we’re on good terms with.

 

We also need good working relationships with others in our professional circle. Customers, suppliers, and key stakeholders are all essential to our success. So, it’s important to build and maintain good relations with these people.

 Good relationships at work and productivity?
We all know that motivation increases productivity.When we feel focused, in control of our choices, we are, the more likely to increase our efficiency at work.
In the motivation theory (Lawrence and Nohria), this is called: the 4 Drive Model of Motivation.
This model says that there are 4 factors that drive us to work harder:
1. Acquire
2. Bond
3. Comprehend and challenge
4. Defend

To bond is very important, the relationships we develop in work influence our performance and our results.

But what is a “good working relationship”?

There are several characteristics that make up good, healthy working relationships :

  • Trust – This is the foundation of every good relationship. When you trust your team and colleagues, you form a powerful bond that helps you work and communicate more effectively. If you trust the people you work with, you can be open and honest in your thoughts and actions, and you don’t have to waste time and energy “watching your back.”

 

  • Mutual Respect – When you respect the people that you work with, you value their input and ideas, and they value yours. Working together, you can develop solutions based on your collective insight, wisdom and creativity.

 

  • Mindfulness – This means taking responsibility for your words and actions. Those who are mindful are careful and attend to what they say, and they don’t let their own negative emotions impact the people around them.

 

  • Welcoming Diversity – People with good relationships not only accept diverse people and opinions, but they welcome them. For instance, when your friends and colleagues offer different opinions from yours, you take the time to consider what they have to say, and factor their insights into your decision-making.

 

  • Open Communication – We communicate all day, whether we’re sending emails and IMs, or meeting face-to-face. The better and more effectively you communicate with those around you, the richer your relationships will be. All good relationships depend on open, honest communication.

Remember, if you would like to join us for our FREE event in the Belfast Business HUB, TUESDAY, on 18th November, you can register here. There are ONLY 5 tickets left:

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Thank you for reading our thoughts and looking forward to our next letter to you:)

If you have any suggestions of topics or future events or you’d like to book a coaching consultation, drop me an email: info@evisioncoaching.co.uk

Have an amazing week!

Laura

Development Coach
Elite Vision Coaching

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Being present, how is that benefiting me?

Being in the present moment, how does it really help me?

When we were kids, nothing else really mattered, only the present moments. I remember that my only concern as a child was to prolong my playing time, to enjoy the game was very precious to me. Didn’t really count what type of game I was playing: tennis, football, hide and seek, volleyball, badminton. Playing, laughing, dancing, eating donuts, all were very important but in the moment. I don’t really remember myself being worried about my future, about what other people think about me, about what I want to become when I will be older (adult). The only thing really important was: My likes, my present joys. Everything else in life, my biggest choices were based on my likes. To be honest, not a long time spent in decision making, my life choices were mostly based on impulses.
When we were kids, biological urges dominate our lives.
All that exists is the here and now. Our brains have not yet developed their capacity for storing and recalling memories, so we have little sense of past.
Our lives, start with a natural focus on the present, but some people continue to focus on present biological simulation into adulthood, responding only to events happening in their immediate physical and social environment. Others, base their decisions and actions on memories rather than on current experience. There is another category of people that base their decisions on their expectations of future scenarios, suppressing reality in favor of anticipated contingencies. For them, two birds in the bush are worth one in hand. 


So, what is the benefit of being in the PRESENT moment?

Go for the flow

A present orientation can help you become fully immersed in inner and outer experiences as you work or perform activities, but it is not essential. It is called, FLOW.
The main characteristics of flow are:
a) CLEAR GOALS – the goals are achievable, they align with person’s skills and abilities
b) Concentrating and focusing – a focused person applies only 20% effort for 80% effective results.
c) Distorted sense of time – the direct and immediate feedback creates a behaviour that can be adjusted immediately
d) The present moments creates a great balance between ability and challenge. The activity is neither too easy or too difficult.
e) There is a sense of personal control over the activity or situation
f) There is a big intrinsic motivation that rewards the person, without waiting for something/someone else to offer satisfaction or reward. 

The FLOW is involvement in the process of whatever you are doing, It helps you to gain perspective and to become more aware of your skills and the process of learning and behaviour.
Our ego is put on the line, the worries are neutralized. They usually distort the process of creating new ideas, new visions and new products.

Tuning in to the PRESENT

Here is a short exercise that I would like to invite you to use if you’d like to gain more presence and awareness in your life.

Please answer each of the following questions. Be sure to give a new answer to each question:
1. I am________________
2. 
 I am________________
3.  I am________________
4.  I am________________
5.  I am________________
6. When am I___________
7. When am I___________
8. When am I___________
9. When am I___________
10.When am I___________
11. Where am I__________
12. Where am I__________
13. Where am I__________
14. Where am I__________
15. Where am I__________
16. How do I feel_________
17. How do I feel_________
18. How do I feel_________
19. How do I feel_________
20. How do I feel_________

There are countless techniques for promoting present orientation. Some of them, such as meditation, yoga and self-hypnosis, have been used for hundreds of years.

I invite you to try this short exercise this week and see how does it work for you. Maybe, you never know, can help you to be more creative?

“I never think about the future. It comes soon enough”. Albert Einstein

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Have an amazing week!

Laura

Development Coach
Elite Vision Coaching

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Work distractions and interruptions

Overcoming distractions and interruptions

Interruptions and distractions impose heavily on our ability to organize work schedules. Not only is there the actual time lost through the interruption but, more importantly, the effort of getting back to the original task and re-focusing attention. The extent to which we are distracted from our work has become much more acute in recent years as a result of technological advances.
We live and work in a world where we are constantly connected, often simultaneously, to multiple vehicles-e-mail, web, mobile phone calls, texts and instant messages- not to mention our face-to-face interactions with people and the impact of old-fashioned landline telecommunication.
Of course, not all distractions and interruptions are technological in nature. Some are social, often by peopple who are themselves engaged in procrastination over tasks they want to escape.
YOU may be also the source of your distraction: is very easy to convince yourself that you just have to make a phone call, get a coffee or check your favourite blog, and you will be back on track in a few minutes. Once the pattern of work is disrupted, you find other pressing chores and the minutes stretch to an hour or more, after which time it is much harder to pick up the threads.

WHAT IS IT TO BE DONE?

We will explore the source of your distractions and different ways to overcome them, on Tuesday evening – 28th October. If you want to be more productive, to get more things done and to increase your willpower, then you can register to this workshop and share your discoveries with us: “FOCUS- how to manage work DISTRACTIONS”

But before the workshop, I’d like to share with you some simple techniques that you can try in the meantime and tell me how it works for you.

1. Batch similar tasks together. 
For example, sending messages, making phone calls, all can be grouped together. You will handle them more effectively and save significant amounts of time that may currently be spent re-focusing after each interruption.

2. Return phone calls at times when people are unlikely to be keen to enter lengthy conversations - just before luch, at the end of the day when they want to get home. Alternatively, set timed calls when agreeing to phone back – “I’ve got 5 minutes ti spare between appointments at 4 o’clock. Can I phone you then?”

3. Give through briefings when passing on tasks to others, so that they have less need to come back to you with follow-up questions.

4. Clarify instructions and other weaknesses in procedures that can lead to repeated queries.

5. Set regular times each day when you will deal with those tasks that require uninterrupted concentration and will be unavailable for meetings, calls and other interruptions. Stick to it and the other will come to respect your interruption-free zone.
6. Take breaks at predetermined times. 
7. Cluttered workplace is a potent source of visual distraction. 
8. Free yourself from the belief that you have to be constantly connected if you want to work effectively.

I invite you to try them all and share with me your feedback. Which technique did you find useful?

I wish you a productive week!

Laura

Elite Vision Coaching

Keep exploring ~ Make connections ~ Share your discoveries