Habits that work for you
A long time ago, when I started my journey in personal development I became interested about happiness and what really make people happy. I realized one thing: my definition of happiness is unique, nobody can have the same perspective as I have. As the time passed by, reading all those personal development, psychology books and self-help I became more and more intrigued and passioned about procrastination and motivation. But when we speak about procrastination, we focus a lot on the barriers we build against our success. We develop excuses, fears and loads of preconceived ideas about how life should be and especially how our lives should flow.
Guess what!!! There is a lot of freedom in the journey but also we need direction and a positive outlook to make us be motivated and excited about achieving our goals and life in general.
Today and especially next week, to our next event we will focus on habits. How can we create healthy habits which will enable our growth and development?
How can we trick ourselves in front of impulses in order to become better persons and to create the life we desire?
Well, is a lot of work there, because it is about 99% perspiration and only 1% inspiration:)
What really happens when we want to acquire a new healthy habit?
The way I see it is: we all have our own ways of living life, with our own rules, definitions and routines. When we want to put in place a new habit, we actually challenge our routines.
We are trying to impose a new rule versus an old one. This process is very difficult and is NORMAL to put resistance.
Rules = demands, expectations, requests, habits
News: People respond differently to the idea of rules!
There are four categories of people about the way you respond to the idea of a rule or a new habit:
a) inner rules: your decision to write a novel, a diet, New Year’s Resolutions
b) external rules: deadlines, doctors orders,
1. THE UPHOLDER
Responds readily to outer rules and inner rules
These people are motivated by fulfillment. They want to know the rules and what is expected from them. They pretty much want to avoid making mistakes and letting people down (including themselves)
Their motto for the day: “What’s on ‘to do list’ today?”. They are very good starters, if they say they will do something, they will follow through.
2. THE QUESTIONER
Questions all rules but will follow rules if they make sense. The won’t follow rules which they disagree, or which seem arbitrary. they are very intellectually engaged
Their motto for the day: “What needs to get done today?”
3. THE REBEL
Resists all rules, outer rules and inner rules alike.They are motivated by present desire. They resist control, even self-control. They choose to act from a sense of freedom. they are happy by breaking the rules. They do what they want to do.
The motto of the day: “What do I want to do today?”
4. THE OBLIGER
Responds readily to outer rules but struggles to keep inner rules. They are motivated by external accountability. They dislike leeting other people down. They respond well to deadlines, coaches and trainers, they like being monitored.
The motto for the day:”What’s expected from me today? “
Which category are you? how can you find ways to motivate yourself to succeed?
If you are a leader or if you will learn the skills of “reading” these categories of people, we can easier modify our approach, our way to motivate them and utterly to influence their behaviours.
We will work together on Wednesday, next week on this. We will explore our personality traits and check how do we respond to rules.
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