Practical ways to get over your impostor syndrome
Did you ever fear that you’ll be found out? Did you ever procrastinate a job promotion just because you “knew” that sooner or later people will find out who you really are? Well, is only one sign of impostor syndrome that I’d like to share with you today. I know, you would think that is an unique feeling, that eventually will go away and nobody will ever know that you’ve been feeling like that.
Well, my dear readers, the impostor syndrome is not that much of unique.
Impostor syndrome is much more common than you’d think – over 70% of people have experienced it at one time or other in their lives.
It is known that lots of entrepreneurial and high-achieving women have it, but I’ve also found that it’s pretty common in men, too.
But what is exactly the “impostor syndrome”?
Impostor syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to see their own accomplishments, dismissing them as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.
In fact, it seems like people in the software or online industries present lots of cases of impostor syndrome.
The speed at which technologies grow means you learn new things in almost every project, and that may make you feel like you are not performing as you should (or that you aren’t in control of what you are supposed to be an expert in).
When problems start to arise, lots of times they are already solved by somebody else. In environments like that, it’s easy to feel you aren’t smart enough. Is taking the responsibility away and the locus of control. The more you think that your achievements are just results of luck or time, context, the more your whole attitude and mindset is changed for the entire life.
I’ve felt like this sometimes. Receiving positive input about my performance or work, and not believing it just because what I did was easy, or I got lucky. Or I just dismissed those opinions, thinking that if a real expert came in and looked at what I had done, he would show everyone that I was a fraud.
When that fear strikes, you start thinking that everyone is smarter than you, that there are lots of things that you don’t know that everyone else already knows, and that they are expecting you to know them, too.
But there are ways to reverse this cycle and overcome impostor syndrome. Here are few ways that can help you:
STEPS TO OVERCOMING IMPOSTOR SYNDROME
- Recognize that it exists.
When you receive positive feedback, embrace it with objectivity and internalize it. By denying it, you are hurting that person’s judgement and you keep on doing the same mistake over and over again.
- Don’t attribute your successes to luck. Your success is the result of your effort. Only because you achieved something fast, doesn’t mean that you’ve been lucky, it simply means that you had a strategic mindset, which is still YOUR effort and your attribute to success.
- Don’t talk about your abilities or successes with words like “merely,” “only,” “simply,” etc.
- Keep a journal. Writing your successes and failures down gives you a retrospective insight about them, and re-reading them makes you remember equally both of them.
- Recognize that the perfect performer doesn’t exist, and that problems will pop up eventually. Take them as little fires under you that make you move forward.
- Be proud of being humble.
- Remember that it’s okay to seek help from others, and that even the best do it.
Accept the fact that there are things that you do not know, there are things that you will never know and there are things that you can decide to learn.
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